I don’t usually post on weekends,my laptop keyboard is not too happy and i usually end up typing like a 7 year old spelling bee.But I shall interrupt my weekend for this post whilst it is still fresh in my mind.

It has been ages since I had met someone blatantly racist ignorant painfully lame pathetic stupid. Now, bacon grew up being neighbours with this guy A. He is a little older than him,which makes him crawling towards 40.Today, whilst we were at the outlaws, A was outside his house as he saw the fil – and asked for bacon (it was a family gathering thingy today). As Bacon headed out, I asked the rest who is this A fella, I had never seen him before…and got varying looks of disgust and random shakes of head with the occasionnal ‘he’s harmless’.So I went out to have a look.

As I was nearing bacon and A chatting by the back fence, I heard snippets of conversation that A had gotten engaged with a Philipino chick. Upon being introduced as mrs. bacon, A asked Bacon if he was as sick of white woman as he is, with their endless nagging ect ect….I was completely incensed I could not say a thing. He continued by insisting that Bacon did the same as what he did, went over to Asia ‘to fall in love’. I was getting extremely insulted,and walked off to look at some pretty flower (it was a really nice day today), and when I turned back he was asking bacon how on earth did I get my visa ect ect. Without a problem at all, I interrupted. I do not need a visa to come to this country, in fact, it is my plan to go home. He was mildly shocked, asking (again, directing the question to bacon) why do I not need one. I answered again, that Malaysia and Philiphines are not the same country, we do not need visas to most countries as we do not do runners.Okay, that sounded mildly racist of me, but at that moment, I was getting extremely insulted of him equating me with his chick, as I had (correctly) suspected his chick of being a mail order bride.

I got the whole story after that…read on if you are interested:).You read this in the newspapers and online but never think of meeting someone actually doing it.

His parents divorced about 10 years ago, apparently his mom left his dad because she got involved with some religion which I shall not name, and wanted to give away every penny she owned to it. Very strange.Anyway, Dad was so hurt that he signed up for ‘love tours’ to Manila, and married a 25 year old not long after the trip ( I think she is 25 now, so around 20 that time?) . Seeing that A is about 40,I think that dad should be around 60?Anyway, they’ve popped one out now,and the boy is around 3 or 4.

A has always been a failure with girls due to his intense creepiness. Thus, his dad has been bringing A to Philiphines for the past few years, introducing the son to love tours of bars and red light districts conducted by himself, the 60 year old stud. Apparently A could not forget the first chick he met, and is now therefore ‘engaged’. Another thought that the family planted in my head is that he has always been weird and when I casually mentioned that maybe he fell and cracked his skull they replied it was something like that -the creepiness not the mail order bride.

My questions:

1) Why do ‘some’ westerners still assume that all asian women are submissive,demure,obedient and doll-like?
2) Why do some asian women reinforce that belief?
3) How lame can you get to say that all western women are fat nagging rude asses?
4) I find that men with Yellow fever absolutely disgusting- the same that I find women with only a persuasion for white men disgusting. Does anyone feel the same or is having white/yellow fever absolutely normal, like what A was trying to say to his buddy Bacon?
5) First impressions, when people see me with Bacon, especially in KL, I always get dirty stares like as if I am some sarong party girl (a malaysian/singaporean term coined to denote those girls only picking up white men in bars ).I fucking hate that, like as if there is a need to prove our relationship was completely normal.WHY DO PEOPLE DO THAT!
6) On the other hand, Bacon has been ‘congratulated’ by people in his good taste in women, and that I will apparently ‘serve him well’. WTF is that?

a semi-related post that I did 1.5 years ago on the same topic..

From time to time, I read blogs by people that i don’t usually read, and it’s usually through links of those that are on my blogroll. I don’t really enjoy them, but its for the times when I am bored out of my mind. Some end up being on my blogroll because I end up reading them more than once a week and enjoy them tremendously(see new additions to my links).

One of the blogs I read occasionally belong to a married woman with 2 kids.A week ago (I think) she posted that single people who thinks that they are happy are in denial. She also thinks that if you think you are single and can depend on your friends, you are just denying your friends the chance to hook up and NOT be single. You are thus pathetic and a sore loser by proclaiming that you are happy being single.

I seem to think that I have quite an ‘authority’ on this topic – aherm. I am obviously not jealous of her married status and her happiness in being married. I think marriage should not be the be all and end all. It is the solidification of the commitment you have with someone and an agreement that even though he farts in bed and leaves his socks everywhere, you would still like to be together with this person. If one day your other half cannot stand it any longer, marriage over, no need to dwell on it and stay in a relationship just to have someone miserable to spend the rest of your life with.I also feel, and tell me if I am wrong, that I am no less of a friend to the people who are important to me whether or not I am single. It is a union of two persons, not one half of a person. Just because I am married does not mean we’ve morphed into siamese twins. True, I might have more time to kau jai (seduce men) with the girls if I am single, but other than that, I do not see myself having no time for my friends (distance notwithstanding ok).

I have many, many single friends. Many smugly-married seemed to have choose their married status over friends. I believe that my utter trust in decisions my friends make and my ability to stand by them irregardless is the reason why I keep friends. I can say that if any of them (single friends) choose to hook up with tom,dick or harry just TO BE MARRIED and IN A RELATIONSHIP, they can. In fact, most of them are actually quite *cough*hot*cough*. But they choose to be single. And I believe that they are happy in the single state. Heck, if you do not choose to be single, I don’t think you would have the space to know yourself well enough to love someone else. Unless you know and love yourself, I do not believe that you are able to love someone else. I chose to be single once, a long long time ago,because I knew I needed it. It was a scary process (resulting in a tattoo), but a nessacary one for me to discover who/what I want in life. And you know what? Those were the best days of my life. It might take you 10 years, it might take you 1 year, the process varies between people. But the bottom line is, you can still choose to be single AND happy.And no, it is not lame. In fact I think it is extremely commendable to choose to be single. Esp if you are single and NOT LOOKING. It is always better to not be in a relationship than to be in the wrong relationship for all the cliched reasons.

I know quoting her without linking her page is quite nonsensical since I am bitching posting about it, but this year my resolution is to be more zen;therefore no flaming.Besides, she did say that it is just solely her personal opinion.That did not stop many of her regular readers from leaving harsh comments anyway – some call her closeminded and ignorant. Its people like her that gives the coupled up a bad name – you all know that sort of couples,they stare smugly down at happy singletons. I know of many smugly coupled who feels/think the same as her – including my own parents. I do not blame the older generation – women were brought up to depend on men. We also, in this age in time, do not NEED a (marriage)license to screw, which was another one of her reasons.I sometimes wonder if she lives in the dark ages.And brandishing her christianity as part of the reason why people should get married – man, that is just not down with it.

But guys, do tell me – do you think it is OK choose to be single or do you (like her) think that God created Adam & Eve (which in the first place I am not even christian:)) and thus if you are single you are pathetic and lame?Or worse, desparately in denial ?

The day that all men dread and all women love is tomorrow – how quick was that?

I had never been a big fan of valentines’ day. One year my car got stolen. One year I had dinner at a posh restaurant – my exbf was there as well with me,but he was doing the cooking instead of eating with me. I even helped out by going around the restaurant taking pictures for lovebirds to keep as a token of their celebration. Last year I stayed at home alone whilst bacon went off to a football match. So I would count the men that I had been with extremely lucky that I had never demanded anything for Valentine’s day! Not only that, I don’t even sulk if they don’t see me. Now, are you in love with me yet?

Marcus did a list of things that elcheapo men can do for their other halves for valentines day. Being an elcheapo , here are suggestions of what a girl can do for her man for valentines day whilst still keeping her shoe fund full:

1.Let him go out with his mates. Yes, on Valentine’s day. Trust me, he’ll love you for it. All the lovey dovey that is bound to happen on this commercialized lovers night will make him miss you more and he’ll probably can’t wait to tear your clothes off when he gets back.

2. Buy sexy lingerie. Put sexy lingerie on. Tie bow. Pose on bed. Tip: If too poor, wrap body in cheesecloth.

3. Pop porn into tv. Pop corn into microwave. Remove. Butter. Enjoy. (add champagne if needed. If feeling too cheap, sparking water)

4. Watch sports on tv with him. Any sports. It seldom matters whether it is lawn bowling, curling or rugby.Provide beer.

5. Buy him a cactus instead of flowers this Valentine’s day. It’s a bloke plant(minimal attention, pokey macho needles) and it looks less gay and a dozen of deep red roses.

6. Go out by yourself. Spend time with your girl friends, single or not. Get a manicure, get a haircut, go for some decadent food. They will love you for it and so would he – excuse for not having to act like a lovelorn puppy is good enough for him.

No doubt tomorrow the roads will be filled wtih lovelorn lovers with big bunches of flowers and chocolates and the restaurants will be filled with men obligated to stare into their lovers eyes all night before splashing out half a month’s salary on a meal of grass and a silver of maet.I will be home, dying of jealousy.

Happy Valentine’s day elcheapos!