As you may or may not know, my ex is also a Chinese woman from KL. Back in 95 when we were dating, it became a daily thing for us, walking down the street, not holding hands but clearly together, to have someone come up to her and say something obscene in Cantonese because she was with me. Things like, “oh, you’re with a gweilo, is it because he’s got a bigger dick?” or “good, you have a gweilo boyfriend, give him a good blowjob tonight,” stuff like that. Usually it would happen, she’d translate for me, and then need to hold me back from running down the street and knocking that guy over. This would happen to us in Genting too, but oddly enough never in Penang.

Malaysia. Truly Asia.

Wow, two generations of mail-order brides in the family. Regarding your first two questions:
1. They believe because of #2.
2. The women behave the way they do because they know they can get a better life by being subservient and marrying these men.

It’s a vicious circle thing.

I wanted to make the Mr. Dudrey and Ting-Tong Macadangdang joke but dammit they are Filipinos and not Thai!

Spike: You don’t get it as much in Penang because historically it has been a more cosmopolitan place than KL. Along with Malacca and Singapore, Penang was one of the Straits Colonies of the British Empire. Plus I think the RAAF still uses a base in Butterworth.

So, people are actually more used to seeing gweilos.

being half filipin, i have to admit i’ve seen that – they reinforce the beliefs “that all asian women are submissive,demure,obedient and doll-like” somewhat because they “worship the ground the whiteys walk on”. i dont know why, but particularly with Americans. they’ve been brainwashed to believe the US is the “land of milk and honey”…

i’ve grown-up utterly nauseous with that perception. but it’s real.

Spike: I would assume it would’ve been even more glaringly obvious in the mid 90s.It is automatically assumed that asian women are with white men because they are the working class girls…and its so wrong.I can’t imagine how would you feel, or for that matter, her. I get snide remarks all the time, but not outright insults

Malaysia, truly boleh.

moo: In a lesser extent (I think) it applies to thai as well.I will write another post on the same thing re: Thai.

midnitelily: I have a close philipino friend that I met in uni. When i told her that bacon is off to work in Manila for 6 months, the first thing she told me that unless I am there with him, he will be snared into the lure of the bargirls who are paid to be nice and submissive.

And this comming from someone who’s born and bred in Manila.

Interesting indeed. Now before I comment on the above – lets reverse the scenario. The first q that my ex said when told that I was seeing someone here was whether he was a dating a white-t(trash). Does that mean I am a SPG – hardly. But then again, lets be honest – there are plenty of em out there who do go out with Caucasians in Asia as their disposible income are way more than what a local has.

Back to the above tho …the thing is, Caucasians (esp those who are lesser educated) have the impressions that Asian girls are demure, docile and are homebodies and to an extent Asians are mostly more family orientated. I have been reading some of your older post (and Zona’s for that matter) which has touched upon how in most cases, we hold our tongues when faced with rudeness – its just how we are brought up.That however doesnt mean we don’t speak our minds.

Funny that… its all misconceptions and preconceptions innit?

We get stares like that all the time (even in the States). When we go out, Chinese guys would look at me with that disgusted ‘you betrayed your race’ look. Once, a guy in the group pointed at me, whispered something to his friends and they would turn and stare rudely.

Some of my Malaysians friends even stopped talking/hanging out with me. At first, I figured they must be busy. When they kept turning down dinner invitations, stopped calling and never returned my calls, I got the picture.

mirebella:I think they compare their pure rudeness and tactlessness with our ‘jaga muka’ attitute of not airing dirty laundry.In more ways than one, I would rather bring my children up the way I was brought up rather than be rude and not thinking before you speak.

simmie: I feel for you. I used to know a ABC who would only go out and be friends with asian people, no matter korean/japanese/chinese;and for someone to grow up in CA and not have white friends, that’s just pure strange man.

as for the malaysians, you must think whether you want to have racist friends as well. If they can easily leave you because your bf/hb (not sure!) is of a different color,then they are not worth it. Weed them out.It is better for you in the long run anyway.

I will say it again, anyone who thinks Asain women are submissive has never dated one.

Then again I will throw your arguement right back at you-why do women always have to make things hard? Men are very simple creatures and selfish. Ergo they think the way they do.

The world has all kinds. Get burned by enough western women and yellow fever seems like a manageable disease. At least it beats the alternative. I’d also submit that the rivalries within Asia don’t help-the S.O. almost smacked a guy in Texas who called her a Filipina. With out unity-its divide and conquer and that is why China gets richer and the PI get poorer.